there are specific structural and systemic social reasons why trans mascs often struggle with hyper invisibility
paradoxically men are "supposed to" struggle under the patriarchy its how you know theyre tough and strong tm its at the center of the myth of the capitalist meritocracy you see it in all of the alpha male grindset bs but despite that youre not really supposed to acknowledge it youre supposed to want what men have uncritically and if men do have struggles its that they dont get enough of the patriarchy benefits (eg. money power sex) its a part of why trans women *must* all be perverts why else would someone not want to be a man
conversely womens struggles are often talked about but the patriarchy wants us to think they simply dont matter women "overreact" essentially: men have benefits women have issues (superficial)
it is by this combination that the patriarchy aims to maintain the status quo nothing is wrong and anything that is wrong doesnt matter and when it does matter its that there isnt enough patriatrchy
also ofc women (and people perceived as women) arent allowed the same cultural relevancy or attention as men history will always talk about 12 mediocre men for every 2 important (white) woman
now these circumstances among other ails of the patriarchy are fundamentally responsible for the oppression all trans people face
no one could ever not want to be a man unless you were some sick freak deviant pervert and hence transfems get hypervisibility but specifically in order to frame us as socially and sexually deviant there is no war in ba sing se and trans women are the example what not to do
and no one could ever not want to be a man so ofc trans men exist but womens issues dont matter tm so surely once theyre men they reached the end goal no issues now they realize every issue before was irrelevant and they live happily ever after stop asking questions and also theyre not "real" men so despite it all theyll never similarly be rewarded for mediocrity if theyre ever recognized to begin with add of the fact that women arent meant to be able to have what men have and it you have yet another reason trans men need to not exist
at the core of this is transmisogyny and its what causes issues for all trans people but trans men are men tm and men dont have struggles the have benefits
when trans men talk about experiencing transmisogyny theyre "talking over women" a move that simultaneously treats womens issues irrelevant compared to mens and acts as if men have no real issues
when trans men create their own word for their oppression now not only are they still (somehow) speaking over women as if men speaking at all immediately silences anything women have to say even when its a discussion in another room but theyre acting as if men have issues unique to them (which they do) at least before men had womens issues (irrelevant) but now they claim to have mens issues (non existent)
all of this to say it all feels v much like an ingrained response to further enforce the hyper invisibility of trans men whenever people act like trans men need to get their own word for something that doesnt exist actually