sometimes artists draw a trans woman but call her something else
I do not care about the artist’s opinion because it invariably sucks ass
an artist’s views permeate their work and how they view their own work
most artists are transmisogynists
∴ I am stealing your “femboy” and telling her she don’t have to call herself that anymore
at risk of being a touch snarky, I think making that comparison shows one doesn’t appreciate the full scale of the issue
so much art of transfeminine characters is buried under the guise of calling them “futas”, “traps”, “femboys”, or whatever other slurs, tacked on by either the artist or those who pass it along and categorize it
it’s pervasive and sickening, and if you call it out, tme people will talk over you and treat you like an idiot for daring to see the transfeminine in the transmisogynized
The fact that terms like "trap" made it into the knowledge of the general public but no term for trans men has even come close to anywhere near as popular should tell you all you need to know about the scale of transmisogyny.
a lot of you really need to internalize that acting avoidant isn't cute at all and that it will cost you experiences and life outcomes if you don't change course
OP must have been on their phone or perhaps computer when they made this post
"Racialised" is much better than PoC but I've been leaning a lot on the concept of racial markedness. Because that allows us to make statements like "the name Jamal is racially marked in USA". Rather than saying something like "Jamal is a PoC name", a nonsense statement, saying it's racially marked in USA allows us to contrast with societies like Albania or the Arab countries where the name Jamal is ordinary, thus unmarked.
It's a concept I've kind of imported from linguistic analysis; saying a speech pattern is more or less marked does not really allow us to avoid the subject of who's doing the marking. A statement like "womens' speech is more marked in Lakota" necessitates that we understand that it's the Lakota who are marking womens' speech. A foreigner can't tell the difference and probably doesn't understand why it would thus be weird to see a man using speech patterns associated with women, in the same way an Albanian wouldn't understand why USA people would think Jamal is a Black name.
You! You get it. In my view, if someone is saying "racialised" or "racially marked" without acknowledgement of context, they are doing it in a way that is gramatically incorrect.
"we're ALL faggots in the eyes of the state" though right?
so many attempts to deny transmisogyny through dumb truisms like this. things people just say to be true, regardless of whether or not (and often not) they actually hold up under scrutiny. trans women are over-represented and dominate communities, numerous common transmisogynistic tropes and archetypes in fiction actually have nothing to do with trans women, trans women all had 4chan nazi phases, and cis people dont make distinctions between trans people. are any of these things actually true? no, but that doesnt matter. they will get repeated again and again and again. they are the nulll hypothesis about trans women. if reality doesnt agree, reality is wrong.
When trans women are mocked and made into jokes in the media, I get very upset, and I am often told “Kay, you can’t go through life getting offended every time someone makes a joke.” And I sputter and object but they don’t hear me. So I want to be clear for once, about why the jokes make me angry.
I learned to hate myself for being transgender before I knew I was transgender. I laughed at the jokes in stand up comedy routines, and prime time sitcoms, and animated comedy shows, and in the movies, and in books, and in games, laughing at trans women for existing, about “men in dresses”, about people who “got their dicks chopped off”, and I learned to think that was worthy of ridicule.
And then a day came when I felt a pang of envy at what my female classmates were wearing and I repressed it, and felt guilty, and a day where I felt incomplete because I had no breasts and I repressed it and I felt disgusting And a day when I realized the only images of romance that made me feel anything showed two women together and I repressed it and I felt like a monster And a day when I realized I felt sick when I looked at myself in the mirror after every shower before work and couldn’t bear to look at my own face, and I hated myself. And then there came a day when I hated myself so much, and I thought I could never understand why, and so I just wanted it all to end. And it was just a miracle that I swerved my car back into my lane in time.
And all of it started with a joke that I heard on TV, and then kept hearing from all the voices from the ether, over and over and over, worming an idea into my mind before I was old enough to realize I was absorbing it, the idea that a man in a dress is funny, and that changing your body parts makes you a freak, and that women who have penises instead of vaginas are liars and hurt men. And they’re still making these jokes. And somewhere out there right now, just like all those years ago, there is a little girl in a t-shirt and cargo shorts with buzzed off hair watching the TV, hearing that joke and absorbing it without knowing it, who will someday have to pry herself apart to tear it out of her head, just like I did.
That is, if she doesn’t kill herself first.
I know this is a really heavy post but if you read it and you appreciated it, I’d appreciate it in return if you reblogged it. This is really important to me and I want people to read it and understand it. Thank you.
Contemplating crimes….
Me: Well, I think it’s wrong to say that children are disgusting and repulsive. They are human beings who deserve respect.
Someone: But have you considered that they [something that applies to many disabled adults]
Me: … :) So. I think human beings with those traits still deserve equal love and respect. Actually.
“But they go to the bathroom in their pants.” “But they make annoying noises.” “But they smell.”
And so did you, once. And it’s very possible if not likely that someday you will do so again. And you were worthy of love and respect back then and you will continue to be worthy of love and respect if it happens again.
If Kurt Cobain had found estrogen and never made music again, that would've been a win in my book. She'd be alive and happy and that's all that matters.
If any closeted trans woman finds estrogen and never produces a single thing ever again, that's a win in my book. She's alive and happy.
go is a doply complex strategic gwame, famously far more complicated than chess, with [the hypnosis activates], [for the next 30 seconds i believe i am a honeybee navigating a field of flowers]