Vampire miku from last last year omg I need to redraw her…

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VH1's Friday Rock Show (1999)

zero patience for "irreversible damage" rhetoric because like... parents are allowed to do all kinds of other irreversible body modification to their kids and nobody gives a fuck. you can pierce your kid's ears, you can sign them up for a sport that will injure them for life, you can provide or withhold medical care like vaccines according to whatever whims you like. i've mentioned this before but my mom forced me to get laser hair removal done on my legs when i was a teenager because my body wasn't mine, the way i chose to upkeep it was a reflection on her. "irreversible damage" is very much part and parcel of the broader belief that parents own their children's bodies.

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Trans men and transmascs, never shut up btw. Don't let them tell you to shut up.

cis people are wayyyy too damn comfortable with making jokes about men getting pregnant. and frankly so are other trans people.

idk what trans man/transmasc needs to hear this but no you are not in on the joke. 9/10 when somebody makes an mpreg joke they are not laughing with you. they aren't even really laughing at you. they are laughing at a caricature of you. they know what a trans man is and yet have so little care about trans men that their first thought when it comes to pregnant men is the hilarity of a cis man being feminized (often forcefully) and how amusingly grotesque or amusingly erotic they find it. you are not in on the joke. you were never in on the joke.

like. :( this was a funny episode otherwise but this was just really uncomfortable and upsetting to see. especially since i know dropout cuts out certain prompts in editing for a lot of reasons, so this promot went through so many different steps and nobody brought up how this might come across? or nobody thought it was bad enough? and i kept waiting for the contestants (one of whom literally is genderqueer!) to work into their jokes something make it clearly about cis men or smth, but. no. and how am i supposed to take that y'know?

i think my biggest problem is that these jokes boil down to "isn't it so WEIRD that a man is pregnant/has breasts???? isn't that so STRANGE?????" and whether you take that the route of "this is funny because its disgusting/disturbing" or "this is funny because its extremely erotically charged, often in a way tied to humiliation/control" you are deriving comedy from the idea of a trans/intersex man's body just. existing naturally. there is no greater depth it is just "wouldn't it be funny if a man was female in some way? but still identifiably masculine but in a way that has been corrupted by the sexual embarrassment of the most stereotypically female act? isn't that amusing?" and at worst its another example of how, when people try to get one over on cis men through the route of gendered/sexed humor, it frequently relies on leveraging trans & intersex men as examples of a man at his most failed, embarrassing, sexually dominated. and the worst part is again that there's not even a cursory attempt to diffuse this charge by the comedians making these jokes, there isn't any acknowledgement of what they are talking about. it's like anyone who's ostensibly a trans ally enters this pocket universe where trans and intersex men don't exist whenever one of these jokes comes around. and how am i supposed to feel about this!!!!!!!!!!!!

also its funny that the only time I have ever seen any meaningful public outrage about these jokes was towards Lil Nas X with his Industry Baby promotional stuff. which i frankly didn't even mind. because while obviously there was an element of "man pregnant!! how strange!!" because of Society, but to me the humor was primarily "a literal reference to the album title" + "i have a new album coming out, so i am depicting myself as literally pregnant with my new album." if he had been a cis woman, it still could've been funny, because there was more to it than just the shock factor of him being a man (although that is mostly how people took it).

but yeah. the only time ive ever seen anyone get any meaningful pushback against these kinds of jokes, was when it could be used to "call out" a Black GNC gay man who was already getting a ton of homophobic hate. how interesting.

"boypreggers" "boyvulating" "boybortion" do you know that a black trans men had the cops called on him because he went to an OB/GYN? or how a black trans man had doctors try to pressure him into getting an abortion, on top of other racist and transphobic medical mistreatment that caused him to have a mental breakdown and develop PTSD after giving birth? or how a black trans man was arrested for shoplifting because he was pregnant and they assumed his baby bump was stolen clothes? or that a pregnant trans man had to jump out of an uber with his wife and run away from the car because the driver was threatening him for being a pregnant man? or how a pregnant trans man was murdered by his abusive husband and misgendered across the news? do you think about any of this ever? do you remember your mpreg obsession when you start talking about reproductive rights or do you immediately start talking about "men controlling women's bodies" without a hint of fucking irony? has your fetishization and mockery of male pregnancy actually translated into any meaningful support for men who can get pregnant?

& i wanna make this crystal clear my point is not "everyone who makes these jokes knowingly is doing it to mock trans men." many people who make these jokes DO think they are doing it in xyz totally lighthearted unrelated to trans men way you think justifies this. my point is that no matter what people think these jokes are about, they are indicative of how we think about and engage with the reality of trans and intersex men. at the very least i want people to think twice before they throw around these jokes like there's no deeper meaning here.

i hate that nonbinary people can't be, like, nonbinary.

whatever we do, we can't win. we can't be seen as actually nonbinary. people binarize us and often mock us or get aggressive or dismiss and ignore our nonbinaryhood or something else.

if we don't medically transition, we are "just cis trenders."

if we do medically transition, we are "just [binary trans] eggs."

we are "technically transmasc or transfem anyways" if we don't use these terms.

we are lumped together with binary trans men and trans women if we do use these terms. our nonbinaryhood is ignored or seen as some kind of "gender-lite."

we are aggressively pressured to disclose if we're AFAB or AMAB, TMA or TME, transmasc or transfem, "boy nonbinary" or "girl nonbinary." and if we refuse to answer, people get double mad at us and pick something for us anyways.

if we show the slightest hint of something that could be interpreted as binary gendered, we are immediately binarised.

if we put a lot of effort into looking the most ambiguous or androgynous or neutral, people still try to find something. and they become aggressive. people often EXPLODE [PT: explode] when they can't gender someone by glance.

our ways of expression are constantly mocked and ignored (like neopronouns, nonbinary-centering labels for gender and orientation, basically all things that are associated with nonbinary people).

but if we choose more typical ways of expression (for example, use "he/him" or "she/her" pronouns), people use it to ignore and dismiss our nonbinaryhood.

we just can't win, and it's upsetting.

For your New World

can believe it's been 3 months i since finished it

Always my fav!

Marie Leroux ✨

Hot take:

Nonbinary and intersex people should be loved and respected and included in trans spaces to whatever degree they would like to be.

Listen. New or questioning trans girl. People will say that wearing a skirt and panties giving you a boner is proof that what you're doing is unnatural. This is untrue. You are experiencing the sense of liking how you look: something most cis people have. You have begun to enjoy your body, something that has been absent for years. Your first kiss ever also will feel/felt that much more powerful. It's a little lame but just enjoy it for now.

Very true. It's uncomfortable because it's new, not because it's wrong.

I was born in the exact right generation I love being an unmarried woman in my twenties with my own bank account and no children

This getting reblogged with “and my thirties” “and my forties” “and my fifties”

[GD: someone slam dunk-ing a basketball.]

jordan . It’s Michael jordan

Controversial take I guess but y’all make transandrophobia more real with every post shitting on trans men for just kinda existing in your vicinity and insisting on being part of their own fucking community.

“Trans men don’t experience a unique form of transphobia” they just get pushed out of every discussion of transphobia, treated like misogynists by default for speaking about their experiences, everyone pretending they aren’t affected by anti-trans legislation and don’t have a right to support, their participation erased from important community historical moments like the Stonewall riot.

It’s an extremely concerning trend I’ve noticed where it’s just become more and more acceptable on here to treat trans men as “acceptable targets” of transphobia and act like they’re assholes for saying that’s fucked up and refusing to take the abuse silently.

To any trans men reading this: you are worthy of love, you are worthy of acceptance, and you are worthy of support. You don’t deserve to be treated this way any more than any other trans person does, which is not at all.

This post is not a safe space for radfems or any other flavor of transphobe