I came across a post that felt quite grim, so here are some reminders for trans people:
you will be capable of finding connections with people that aren't the same kind of trans that you are. hell, you can even find connection with cis people. being trans doesn't condemn you to only being able to hang around 'your kind'.
take breaks from discourse topics and scroll through trans positivity and joy tags EVERY DAY, or at least once or twice a week. discourse breeds vitriol and distrust, but trans joy and positivity posts uplift spirits and allow for solidarity.
you don't have to change your identity in order to be respected.
you don't owe anybody an explanation for why you identify the way you do.
do subtle things that help reduce dysphoria if you experience it, if it's not safe/currently possible for you to do more major things like medical transition.
you are still trans if you don't want to undergo medical transition, and you are 100% your gender.
gender euphoria is just as legitimate as gender dysphoria.
your presentation is your own.
you will get better at makeup eventually. everybody has to start somewhere, and it doesn't mean you've failed somewhere for not being able to master the skill. just like other forms of art, it takes practice and time.
who cares if your name is a stereotypical trans name? if it makes you happy, name yourself Aiden, Lily or Socks. it's your name and that's all that matters.
add another name or pronoun set to the pile. do it. do it NOW. /silly
your pronouns aren't 'too ridiculous' to be respected, and you'll find people who will respect them.
consume and create art, no matter how 'cringe' people tell you it is.
you don't have to 'pick one' when it comes to gender.
I'm gonna end this post now before it becomes too long. feel free to add on, though!
I urge people to donate to Dem Bois, a non profit organization that provides trans masculine and trans men of color grants for transition related surgeries as well as care packages.
During the height of covid when I was unemployed and homeless, Dem Bois provided me with a care package that, more than anything, gave me hope to keep living and a reminder that my community exists and is one of perseverance and survival.
Hey, folks. Do me a favor.
When you circulate the frustrating, scary news about the Trump administration’s ongoing attacks on the manufacturers of chest binders, include a link or two to charities that provide free chest binders for those who cannot afford them or cannot safely purchase them.
News about governmental attempts to restrict trans people’s autonomy has a tendency to hit the most vulnerable members of our community hard. Pairing that news with options for self-determination is protective.
Two of my favorite free binder charities are Point of Pride and the Brother 2 Brother Binder Program.
hii! i have a moderately used but still in good condition underworks binder in a size small and light tan color that i outgrew. in light of recent events, i would like to send it to a transmasc person in need of a binder for free. i am willing to cover shipping costs. for safety's sake i will unfortunately only be able to send to someone 18+ with a safe address in the USA. now, if you fit that criteria and want to claim it for someone else you know, that's beyond my post and none of my business. dm me for my email address if interested.
If a trans guy is ranting about hating being 160cm tall or about hating how big his hips are, you DO NOT tell him “aw but i love short kings!” “I wish I had your hips :(“ THAT’S NOT WHAT WE WANNA HEAR.
my own addition is that if a trans man or transmasc person rants about anything remotely feminine about them (according to society) and that he or they wishes it was different, don't bring up "it's okay to be a feminine guy!!!" because that's the exact opposite direction of what they are saying. They don't/might not want to be feminine. Please go back to English classes and learn this awesome thing called "critical thinking".
five nights at forcemasc 👹
Five nights at forcemasc where instead of sister location it’s brother location and there is no springtrap suit just binders and instead of jumpscaring you the animatronics inject you with T
Freddy transbear: “he he he him him himhmhimhimhimhim he he he him he he he him”
yesterday, I went to the mall. while my mom was looking at christmas cards, I heard somebody say, 'look at her hair!' in regard to my hair. while I don't typically like being read as a girl by strangers, this is the second time this year that it's happened with my back turned. I'm learning not to take it personally, though; a lot of people still assume long hair = woman, and what gender people assume I am based on such made up rules is becoming less of my problem with each passing year.
anyways, when they actually complimented me (instead of, you know, saying something behind my back that I'm not even sure they intended me to hear), I made sure to turn around just enough that they could see the facial hair and otherwise 'masculine' facial structure. then, in the deepest voice I could muster, I said 'thank you'. I didn't catch their reactions, but I'm sure there was probably a double-take being done, LOL.
If you tell transmasc/men to """man up""" you should log off. Forever, actually. Dont ever come back either.
you have to keep being loud and annoying about being thankful for transmascs and loving transmascs and supporting transmascs. they deserve to know there’s people out there who care for them and that they have a community behind them
'I'm a trans man and I don't want to be called a lesbian' nobody cares. the people who are giving trans men the option to identify that way if they want to aren't telling all trans men under the sun to identify as lesbians. just because you can't tell the difference between 'trans men can be lesbians if they identify as such' and literal TERFs who think all trans men are lesbians doesn't mean you're actually being attacked by the scary lesbian FTMs. all I can hear when some trans guy says some shit like that is 'how can I make somebody's identity about me?' and that shit is honestly so insufferable. ""secondhand dysphoria"" headass.
I'm sorry if this comes off as dismissive, because it's perfectly fine to not want to label yourself that way due to dysphoria. I'm not dissing that! however, there's a certain point where I can't afford somebody much sympathy, and it's when they use their own identity to police the identities of other people. I loathe that shit, and it's honestly really hard for me to even begin to care about people who do it.
your journey isn't the only one that exists, and you do not get to tell people what to do because for some reason their identity gives you dysphoria. you have to work through that.
we should make 'transandrobro core' as an offshoot of 'trendercore'; if we're just going to be continuously disregarded and invalidated, we may as well continue to reclaim the shit people throw at us. I already have a few ideas for what this would look like, so consider this a coining post.
Transandrobro core, transandropunk, or transandrocore has the core belief of trendercore: being loud and proud of being a trans person, though this focuses more on trans men and mascs. it supports not being complacent in our erasure and invisibility, taking space as trans men and mascs, and self-love within our identities in spite of the self-loathing demanded of us.
more under the cut:
if you see a trans man that’s too deep into tumblr discourse cycles, you have to regularly pull him out and remind him that he’s loved!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have to tell him that his masculinity isn’t inherently evil or dangerous or antifeminist and that he shouldn’t feel guilty for being himself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have to let him know he has people who love him for his manhood, and not in spite of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have to be there for him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have to be there for trans men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ppl fearmongering to transmascs abt testosterone is ridiculous "ooh don't take the injection that makes u happy what if it ALSO makes you impossibly hot"